For the average adult, there are 35,000 choices made per day. At first glance, that sounds impossible, right? But when you really think about it, from the moment we wake up to when we fall asleep, we are always consciously making choices.
Tea or coffee? Cereal or an omelette? Which outfit to wear? Should you really have that extra large cookie or a granola bar like you know you should?
How about something less trivial like choosing who gets on your nerves? What if the unimaginable happens and in a moment of carelessness you drop your phone in the toilet? You can choose to be angry about it and let it destroy your day or just shrug it off and realize that you’ve been wanting to get a new phone anyway.
Who we are right now, in this moment, is because of the choices we have made so far.
As the greatest wizard ever (besides Merlin) had once said:
No truer words have been spoken. So what if you are highly intelligent and have the cure for cancer? What matters more is what you decide to do with that knowledge and innovation. What a person chooses speaks volumes about their character.
What if you wake up feeling depressed? Traffic get you in a bad mood? Or maybe the waitress got your order wrong and you left feeling sour that she made a mistake.
Something worth practicing is trying to make a choice not to let external occurrences affect your mood.
Of course it’s easier said than done, as it is with anything else. As long as you are aware of the choices you make, good or bad, that’s a step in the right direction. Maybe read something inspirational or put on your favorite song when you wake up to fight the morning blues. If you’re stuck in traffic just postpone your anger for a few seconds and see if it’s really worth getting your blood pressure raised. And if you didn’t like what the waitress gave you, at least you tried something new and decided you had a reason not to like it in the first place.
It’s your life, so do what you want! You have the ability to make choices about your emotions, so choose to have positive emotions. If being happy is too much of a stretch, then at least choose unhappiness.
“But I can’t help it when I’m sad/upset!”
I beg to differ, there is plenty you can do to fight the emotions that make you sad/upset in the first place. What thoughts made you sad/upset in the first place? Do you have to let them make you feel those emotions?
The way I see it is, whatever goes through your mind is created by you. No one else has control over your thoughts or feelings; we all have our free will, we are all independent.
You have control over your thoughts and your feelings come from your thoughts. So what does that mean? You have control over your feelings too! Amazing, right?
All of this ties back into choosing what thoughts to have. Or at least, choosing your reaction to the thoughts you have, like the phone example.
Just remember that you are responsible for yourself and how you feel. You can choose to be happy, even when you’re dealing with a multitude of problems. Happiness is not an absence of problems, but the awareness of those problems and having the motivation and strength to deal with them.
Hi everyone! Can I just say that reading for leisure is going to be nearly impossible now that I’ve gone back to school? Between textbooks and other assigned reading, it’s going to take some serious effort to just get some reading done for fun. How exhausting!
My first week of grad school is officially done and I’m anxious to see what will happen in the coming months. I’m willing to give it my all and choose to make it a positive experience! I have to keep my promise and try to live my life to the fullest.
How is everyone doing? Reading anything interesting? Let me know, I love knowing what you all are up to. I thrive on human interaction so I won’t become a studious hermit.